is a very fascinating challenge whether at all we can create community and relationships like this is a great question but if if there's anything that's been proven for the past two days it definitely is possible there definitely is a possibility at least on a one-to-one basis because i do feel already quite close to you and i think part of that is is your with your own theory of love which is that there's mutual and reciprocal self-disclosure yeah so you share of your story and your intimate and personal story which which which was really very touching and resonated very deeply with me um so let's let's let's respond in tone my story is different as everyone's story isn't it in a beautifully different yet fundamentally sometimes similar way i grew up in a hasidic community my parents were sent as emissaries by the bhava toraba to sydney australia all the way from from brooklyn and i grew up as something of an out of like an insider outsider because i was living within my own kasiri community but i was living within the broader australian community i was an outsider both because i was you know a jewish young young child and young adult and the jew is in some ways the perpetual outsider historically yeah and so then as being a hasidic and orthodox jew even within the jewish community you're there's again another level of outsiders right and a lot of a lot of that sense of um of perhaps like an existential isolation um was something which i which i didn't necessarily cognize and understand consciously at the time as a child but retrospectively i could see how that was took a part and shaped my identity and what was really a watershed moment for me which i mentioned briefly in our first conversation was discovering that not only were the ideas the general sort of ideas of let's say monotheism or ethics that judaism teaches shared by other traditions those are all kind of facadel things although you know as important as they are and they certainly are but what i found really blew my mind when i was 15 or 16 was that