f create space others life allow come dialogue us fill full spaces room love relation create express yeah 's 's scheme han makes converging argument agony eros uh critique pornography uh says eros actually requires um true recognition otherness challenge way foresee finally protect whereas know pornography calls aesthetic smooth things regarded beautiful precisely way present challenge otherness way distract disturb self self-recognition self-grasping thought profound critique bring shows know uh think could make uh think han actually alluding 's ultimately making ontological point know scent time right uh right books know 's mean people might listening say cares arcane stuff point right n't explicit uh account uh realness 're much gon na implicit one 's gon na cash things like 're seeing han 's critique lost uh capacity genuine eros beauty uh precisely understand uh necessity uh uh otherness order proper self-transcendence property logos um etc wanted point leads another thing complaint oh want intervene go ahead let move another thing let let jump something said um 's one author mysticism 'm quest said read every really good thing 's read